While the gap between “decent” and “professional” is a very wide one, with many levels of nuance and sophistication, it’s really not necessary to close that gap. With the new standard of technology available to the average person, it’s easy to put together decent quality film on a shoestring budget. This whole process can be as simple or as elaborate as you and your partner want it to be. Of course, you can do zero roles, story lines, or anything fancy, and have it all be a one-take wonder where it’s simply you and your partner being intimate with each other from a generally flattering angle.
After all, spice is what this is all about, isn’t it? ? This would create a deliciously fun running joke between you, adding spice to life anywhere, anytime.
You can even make up a fake production company behind the film, or talent agency that represents you.
If you want to go the full nine yards, create stage names and write them into a credit sequence, along with a title. Draw on your own fantasies to pick something that excites you. What’s the format? Do you want to involve a bit of story and role-play, or just cut right to the chase? Do you want it to feel more like a casual celebrity sex tape, or a polished film? One angle the whole time, or a few mid-scene change ups?Ĭommon dynamics you’ll see in porn films that are easy to replicate are boss/secretary, fitness trainer/client, landlord/tenant, real estate agent/buyer, massage therapist/client, affair, a maintenance house call, etc. What about the venue? Do you see it happening in the kitchen? The car? The bedroom? Your home office? Poolside (if you have private access)? A mix of a few settings? What’s the vibe? Do you want something soft and sensual, or rough and passionate? How about the look? Bright and over-exposed, or dim and intimate? This is simply for general direction, ideas of angles/concepts, and group synergy.
Don’t get caught up in trying to recreate the aesthetic of real professional quality content. Have each of you pick a few porn clips to showcase what style and feel appeals to you the most. It will also bring clarity on what gear will work best to execute your shared vision.ĭo some of your own research online. It will not only build excitement, but also bring cohesion to the end product. Take a little time to plan and roughly storyboard. Talking through all these points will allow you to be present and totally relaxed in the moment with your co-star(s).įilming homemade porn with your partner is kind of like going to a sex party with your partner… talking through all of the logistics, fears, and concerns comes first… and then the fun comes after! Why are you doing this? What would you love to see? What will happen with the end product? Who gets to view it, or receive a copy of it? Talk about the logistics so that you both feel completely safe with each other. Now put the two together and things are, for a lot of people, likely to get even more confronting.Īlso, all parties involved must have full awareness of the creative process and filming. Two situations where we can feel the most awkward and insecure are (1) being naked or (2) being in front of a camera lens.
It will ensure the process is as fun and comfortable as possible. Only do this with someone you trust fully and that you easily communicate with. But before we dive into the ins-and-outs of becoming your own X-rated auteur, I want to emphasize something crucial: Shooting and editing steamy home videos with your partner can be incredibly exhilarating and wickedly fun. A much better solution than ogling thousands of strangers online? Watching you and your significant other get it on in an ultra-customized film where you are the starring actors! I have been a fairly outspoken advocate against consuming too much mainstream porn, purely as a stance against what it does to your mind, your libido, and your relationship (not to mention the negative impact it has on the predictability and strength of your erections). Have you ever wanted to film you and your partner having sex? Does it seem a little overwhelming and intimidating? Not sure where to start?